Checklist:
- I know why I want to marry.
- I am ready to give up being single and to commit to another person for life.
- I am mature enough to know what I want and don’t want in a partner.
- I understand it’s not my partner’s job to fulfill me, complete me, rescue me or keep me happy.
- I can regulate (or discipline) my self-serving impulses and put another person first.
- I am not impulsive about seeking pleasure
- I am willing to compromise
- I don’t think I’m always right
- I am sensitive to and can empathize with the feelings of others
- I don’t easily get into arguments or fights (I can self-soothe)
- I can try to understand another’s ( even opposing) point of view
- I am non-judgmental
- I understand happiness and love come by giving
- I make a serious effort to fulfill commitments
- I can maintain, or help to maintain a family.
- I understand the difference between love and infatuation.
- I have a healthy way of handling conflict.
- I have good personal hygiene.
Are WE Ready for Marriage?
- We are aligned with each other’s core values.
- We have compatible personalities.
- We have similar conflict resolution styles.
- We are both able to tackle tough issues together.
- We have the same type of lifestyle.
- We don’t want to change each other.
- Our family and friends like our partner.
- We both want or don’t want children.
- We have discussed areas of importance. Try these premarital questions.