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Am I Ready for Marriage?

November 24, 2018 by Uttama devi dasi

Checklist:

  1. I know why I want to marry.
  2. I am ready to give up being single and to commit to another person for life.
  3. I am mature enough to know what I want and don’t want in a partner.
  4. I understand it’s not my partner’s job to fulfill me, complete me,  rescue me or keep me happy.
  5. I  can regulate (or discipline) my self-serving impulses and put another person first.
    • I am not impulsive about seeking pleasure
    • I am willing to compromise
    • I don’t think I’m always right
    • I am sensitive to and can empathize with the feelings of others
    • I don’t easily get into arguments or fights (I can self-soothe)
    • I can try to understand another’s ( even opposing) point of view
    • I am non-judgmental
    • I understand happiness and love come by giving
    • I make a serious effort to fulfill commitments
  6. I can maintain, or help to maintain a family.
  7. I understand the difference between love and infatuation.
  8. I have a healthy way of handling conflict.
  9. I have good personal hygiene.

Are WE  Ready for Marriage?

  1. We are aligned with each other’s core values.
  2. We have compatible personalities.
  3. We have similar conflict resolution styles.
  4. We are both able to tackle tough issues together.
  5. We have the same type of lifestyle.
  6. We don’t want to change each other.
  7. Our family and friends like our partner.
  8. We both want or don’t want children.
  9. We have discussed areas of importance. Try these premarital questions.

Filed Under: Premarital

About Uttama devi dasi

Uttama devi dasi has been married to Partha das since 1971. They are both members of the Grihastha Vision Team and are certified mentors with Vaisnava Version 108 and Prepare and Enrich. They have facilitated seminars for the GVT all over the world, in South Africa, England, India, Ireland, Brazil, Guyana, Trinidad, the US and Canada. They live in Saranagati Village, BC Canada, where they offer premarital education via Skype.

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Healthy Marriages. Happy Families. Strong ISKCON.

The GVT is a grass roots volunteer group of Krishna devotees who are mostly mental health or educational professionals. Our intention is to provide resources to support married couples and prospective couples primarily in North American ISKCON communities. However, the broader community of Vaishnavas, and anyone who is interested in spiritual married life are welcome to take advantage of the knowledge that is shared here. We want to help spiritualize your married life so that it will be an asset for your Krishna (God) consciousness. We welcome your suggestions to make this site relevant and useful.

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