Our first principle in Vaisnava families is to see the spouse as a Vaisnava first and foremost, any type of spousal/family abuse is Vaisnava apradha, offending Krishna’s devotees, and has serious spiritual consequences. Although it varies country to country, most physical abuse is also a criminal offense.
The following link may be useful in recognizing abuse and getting help.
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