A foundational principle in Vaisnava families is to see our spouse as a Vaisnava first and foremost. Any type of spousal/family abuse is Vaisnava apradha, offending Krishna’s devotees, and has serious spiritual consequences. Although it varies country to country, most physical and sexual abuse, along with some forms of psychological and emotional abuse, financial abuse and neglect are also a criminal offense.
The following links may be useful in recognizing abuse and getting help.
Domestic Violence and Abuse: Recognizing the Signs of an Abusive Relationship and Getting Help
Domestic Abuse and it’s Effect on Spiritual Communities
Overcoming and Healing From Domestic Abuse